Understanding Obama's Narcissistic Entitlement Syndrome

The actions of our president has many people scratching their heads. How is it that when our country is in crisis Obama goes golfing four times a week, parties, sometimes two and three times a week, vacations every month and plays basketball daily? Who is in the oval office running things? How is he so disconnected from the ordinary people who elected him?

The following will try to explain the sickness that is afflicting him which causes his disconnect and his actions.

Our president is afflicted with Narcissistic Entitlement Syndrome, or NES, which is a genuine personality disorder characterized by a pattern of grandiosity and self-importance, need for admiration, and lack of empathy.

The word narcissism originates from the character made famous by the Greek poet Ovid, where Narcissus fell in love with his own reflection.

People with NES overestimate their abilities and inflate their accomplishments, often boastful and pretentious, while underestimating and devaluing the achievements and accomplishments of others. They tend to fish for compliments (often with great charm), and abuse special privileges and squander extra resources.

The roots of the narcissistic are both developmental and genetic ego. It represents the part of the self that thinks it is "the greatest" and the "smartest," so smart that it can get away with things, especially fooling people with regard to its intent.. Further, the ego thinks of itself as so powerful that it thinks it can exercise a kind of control, theoretically available only to divine forces.

The narcissistic defense seeks to dominate every space in which it participates – both on individual and group levels. This force of narcissism is interested in, committed to, and obsessed with power and control, and it will sacrifice people and resources indiscriminately

 

 

Entitlement and narcissism are linked because the sense of entitlement most often has narcissistic undertones. These people see themselves as special, believe they should have whatever they want regardless of the feelings of others, and continually inflate themselves while putting others down.

Those with NES are generally preoccupied with fantasies of limitless brilliance, power, and success, they envision the environment around them as one where they should be the center of others' attention due to their achievements, often exenterated. They generally have not worked at a "real job” but, expect to be recognized as superior to others without a corresponding level of achievement. As a product of these fantasies, they will often show a very arrogant attitude.

They lack empathy and are unwilling (or unable) to identify with the needs or feelings of others, often viewing those around him as objects to be manipulated to be in service of his ultimate fantasies of power.

Finally those with NES require excessive admiration. They need constant approval from those around them.

 

Some of the Causes:

 

*An oversensitive temperament at birth.

*Overindulgence and overvaluation by parents.

*Valued by parents as a means to regulate their own self-esteem.

*Excessive admiration that is never balanced with realistic feedback.

*Unpredictable or unreliable care giving from parents.

*Severe emotional abuse in childhood.

*Being praised for perceived exceptional looks or talents by adults.

*Excessive praise for good behaviors or excessive criticism for poor behaviors in childhood

NES results from a person's belief that they are flawed in a way that makes them fundamentally unacceptable to others. Pathological narcissism can develop from an impairment in the quality of the person's relationship with their primary caregivers, usually their parents, in that the parents were unable to form a healthy, empathic attachment to them.

At first sight people often describe a narcissist as popular, having charisma, attractive, competent, warmth and humor.

They are addicted to being famous, it drives them. Being famous encompasses a few important functions: it endows the narcissist with power, provides him with a constant Source of Narcissistic Supply (admiration, adoration, approval, awe), and fulfils important Ego functions.

 

How to Help a Narcissist.

More and more mental health providers see young people on a regular basis who are absolutely certain their lives should be better than they are and someone else is to blame. But not only young people. This seems to be an intergenerational dysfunction.

If you want to help a narcissist, stop providing him with what he needs. Do not adore, admire, approve, applaud, or confirm anything that he does or says. Disagree with his views, belittle him, reduce him to size, compare him to others, tell him that he is not unique, criticize him, and make suggestions, offer help. In short, deprive him of that illusion which holds his personality together.

On an interpersonal level, responses and questions like, "that's interesting; could you explain that?; or, "I am not clear about that; would you please clarify (or elaborate)?; or, "it seems like there is a contradiction in your logic." All of these can generate positive results in terms of reducing the control of the narcissistic forces. Accountability skills are conditions that require narcissist to take responsibility for their intent or give up their position. Questions like the following are beneficial to bring about their accountability skills:

How did you come to your decision/position?

What factors influenced your decision?

Have you considered the possibility that you are contradicting yourself?

Have you considered that you have avoided considering some important factors?

 

Although this was meant to explain Obama’s personality, and the decisions, or lack of, that he makes on a daily basis, it says a lot about other people we have a difficult time understanding, for example: Nancy Pelosi, most everyone in Congress, and especial Liberals.

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